Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Key #7: Motivation

Good Wednesday to all. I hope everybody is having a great day. This is part #7 on keys for a successful rehab. Like I always say, this is based on my own personal experience. The keys of success are those things that in my eyes have worked best for me. We will see how prior "keys" will tie together.
What is it that drives me to succeed? The answer is motivation. I could choose to stay at the house all day long but I don't. Why? It doesn't do anything for me. I have set goals that I want to achieve, like getting better and returning to active duty. I am motivated to accomplish my goals and will use and do anything that will help me get there.
There are many factors that come into play to trigger the motivation in me. First, let's take my providers and therapists. I mention in Key #2 about the Providers Compassion, my providers are so committed to my improvement and my care that I don't want to let them down. Since I don't want to let them down and I want them to see that all the effort and time they have invested in me yield returns. In therapy and outside therapy I am motivated in giving my best to improve. It goes both ways. The provider is motivated to care for the patient, which will motivate the patient; and the patient motivation will motivate the provider. It is a cycle. I'm sorry I'm using the word motivation to much.
Family is part of the support network I mentioned in Key #4. Usually family members becomes the caregivers. A brain injury is an abrupt change in the family, it will bring some stress on relationships. Motivation can be a cushion for that stress. As I demonstrate my full commitment on my rehabilitation and that I do my best, the stress level in the family lowers. Being motivated has significantly improve my family life.
How did I trigger some of my motivation? By volunteering for work. Even though at this point in time I do not perform at the level I used to and the tasks are not as hard as they used to, I volunteer because: 1. I'm helping others and 2. At the end of the day I feel that I accomplish something. Having that sense of accomplishment creates motivation in me. I always tried to keep myself busy. I don't carry my shame no more, now I have to be supervised when before I didn't, I don't see the negative side in it. I see that all is helping me achieve my goals. As long as I can work towards my goals I stay motivated.
Also, writing to you in this blog keeps me motivated. Receiving feedback and comments from readers let's me know that what I'm doing is being read and it's serving it's purpose. That make a huge difference in me and keeps me motivated. I thank you all the readers: "You are a very important part of my support network and my rehabilitation".
After a brain injury is hard to have initiative which affects our motivation. We have to rely on all those people and things around us. Creating good relationships with providers, family, and friends helps in the creation of a motivated environment.
Bottom line is: have a positive support network, set goals and work towards achieving them, and stay busy and feel productive. All those will significantly affect your motivation level. Last but not least, pray and have faith. The better our spiritual life is, the better it will all be.
My message today is: stay motivated, you can do it!
IT WILL ALL GET BETTER.
See you tomorrow.

3 comments:

  1. After reviewing the results of my first qEEG to determine how my brain was performing after my brain injury, my neurofeedback practitioner was amazed because it was so bad. She said "You are only functioning as well as you are because of sheer determination."

    I have been mightily determined that I was not going to stay the way I was, and I have not. That is my motivation. I really do not have had a strong support system. While it would be great, it is not absolutely necessary.

    The motivation has to come from within you.

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  2. You are such a inspiration Victor!!! I cannot say it enough.

    Be Well
    Nancy

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  3. Victor,

    You are so right on! I am a person who has been living with my brain injury for well over 19 years now. Alas, employers do not want to hire a part-time, part brained person - I got over that so now it is up to me to advocate for the millions who live with brain injury.

    I have assisted literally thousands wade through the mess of seeking services. Most of these individuals do not have good supports - if any. Medical is hard to come by and most have been "discharged" from hospitals OR have never been "diagnosed at all"! Yet after that fall, auto accident, war wound (from WWII to present!!) or ? their brain has never operated the same.

    We as People who Live with Brain Injury must continue to tell our story, reach out, support and demand that services for people like us are just as important. We are no different than someone who has been diagnosed with cancer, heart condition, or other diseases; with one exception - there is "no cure" (period).

    You have put your thoughts right on it though - building strength through determination, seeking medical help and helping others can be the best in improving self!

    Thank you Victor - together you, I and the Millions of People Living with Brain Injury can help those who are in need.

    Yours in Advocacy
    Glenn
    Advocate for People and Families Living with Brain Injury

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